Dharma in Hindu parlance is not really religion nor duty. It is to do what is for the greater 'right' no matter...hence if you have been forgiving and meek all your life, it may be time to fight for what is rightfully yours. A sanyasi may give up but a soldier needs to fight, the Geeta says...but not to concentrate on fruits.....Besides there are times assigned. When you child is small it is your dharma as a mother to nurture, and when your chid reaches adulthood, it is time to let him go...